Look and Feel Great at Any Weight - You don't have to be a size 6 to be fit and fabulous!

By Heather Hatfield
WebMD Weight Loss Clinic - Feature
Reviewed By Kathleen Zelman, MPH, RD/LD

"I am a size 14, I'm curvaceous, I work out every day, and I feel great," says Elaine Magee, MPH, RD, author of more than 20 books and a WebMD Weight Loss Clinic consultant.
And not only can larger-size women be healthy and feel terrific, they can look every bit as stylish as their size-6 friends, says full-figured supermodel Emme (who knows all about looking fabulous).
It is possible to have a body image like Magee's or Emme's - one that's healthy and positive - even if you aren't skinny.

Why, then, do so many full-figured women feel so bad about their bodies, even when they're at a weight that's healthy for them? And how can they, like Magee and Emme, start to like what they see in the mirror?
Several body image experts interviewed by WebMD offer practical tips for feeling good about your body.
And Emme has style hints that will help you dress to look your best.

Getting Over the Norm
"As we develop and grow, we begin to place a value on what we see in the mirror -- which is based on experiences but also on the cultural norm, with a thin body being the preferred type," says Kathy Kater, LSW, a psychotherapist in St. Paul, Minn., who specializes in body image and eating and weight disorders.

But the problem with the cultural norm in America is that human beings aren't meant to be one size or one shape.

 "The research on body diversity is conclusive: Even if we all ate the same optimal, wholesome diet and exercised to the same high degree of physical fitness, we would still be very diverse in our shapes," says Kater. "Some are quite thin and some are quite big, but mostly in the middle."

Of course, she's not promoting obesity, which brings health risks. But many of us can be quite healthy even if we wear a plus size.
So how can you accept the fact that your body is meant to be a certain size - even if that size isn't skinny - and feel good about it?

First, accept the fact that big doesn't mean bad.

"The most common body image complaint for women, and increasingly for men, is the 'I feel fat' body-image distortion," says Kater. "It's a learned perspective that says to be bigger is a bad thing. But it's not! And actually, it's quite possible to be big without being unhealthy."

People of all sizes and shapes, explains Kater, should learn to define health by making healthy choices rather than by their size or weight.

In fact, if full-figured is your natural body shape, you're better off sticking to what you were born with than depriving yourself to reach what can be a dangerous goal.

"Everyone has a natural body weight," says Ruth Kava, PhD, RD, director of nutrition at the American Council on Science and Health in New York.
"If you have to starve yourself to get where you think you should be, you may be doing damage because you may not be getting appropriate nutrition."

That doesn't mean you should give up on a healthy diet -- or on exercise. In fact, the experts say, exercise is the key to good health and a healthy body image.

"Exercise always helps," says Kava. "It may not change your absolute body weight, but you will feel better about your body, improve your self-esteem, and improve your attitude."

But if you're a beginner, don't get carried away.

"If you're someone who doesn't exercise, you need to start slowly," says Kava. "And don't get discouraged, even when life intervenes. This is a lifelong commitment to yourself that you have to make."

Building a Better Body Image

What other steps can you take to boost your body image?

Make sure the people around you make you feel good about yourself, no matter your size. "If you are spending too much time with people who make you feel bad about your body,
maybe you need another social group," Kava says. "Get an exercise group together, be proactive."

Make sensible decisions about what you eat. "Make sure that you have a reasonably healthy diet," Kava tells WebMD. "If you need help deciding what's good and bad for you, get the help of dietician.
People splurge on facials and massages -- go splurge on a dietician."

Focus on the inside, and let your body take its natural shape. "You need to focus on eating healthy and exercising while working on what's inside of you and the way you feels about yourself," says Magee.
"In everything that I do, I promote the philosophy that you should eat and exercise for the health of it, and let the pounds fall where they may."

Choose positive role models. "Choose role models that help you feel good about who you are, rather than ones who make you feel bad," says Kater.

Style Tips From Emme

Supermodel, television host, best-selling author and lecturer Emme leads the list of full-figured role models who know a thing or two about having a positive and strong body image.

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"If you're under stress, exercise is even more important to do, to dilute it and put it into perspective."

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She's been named as one of the "50 Most Beautiful People" in the world by People magazine - twice. Ladies Home Journal chose her as one of the "Most Important Women in America" and one of the
"Most Fascinating Women of the Year." Biography magazine honoured her as one of the "25 Most Influential Women," and Glamour saluted her as "Woman of the Year."

Unlike most women we see in entertainment, she's not a size 2. And that's just fine with her.

How did Emme do it?

"The most important key I can give is to get interested in something outside of your home or apartment that gets your heart pumping, and you will see an incredible difference in your attitude and energy level," says Emme. "If you're under stress, exercise is even more important to do, to dilute it and put it into perspective."

 And, of course, looking your best helps you feel great about yourself. That's where Emme's practical and easy style hints come in.

Emme's advice:

First, clean out your closet. If you haven't worn something within the last year, give yourself the license to chuck it!

Don't deny your body shape. If you do, you'll get frustrated with dressing and not see the wonderful options that are now available for your body type and shape.

Follow only the trends that suit you. Avoid trends that don't work for your body type.

Don't wear too many accessories or mismatched prints.

Go for shapely, figure-skimming silhouettes, not boxy clothes that cover up your body.

If you're a pear shape (narrow shoulders and wide hips), buy pants and skirts that are 1-2 sizes larger than you normally wear and have a tailor take them in at the waist.

Always buy one size larger than you normally wear to have a jacket, dress, or suit tailored to fit you. If you buy too small a size, there won't be enough material to work with.

Find good undergarments that help eliminate panty lines, and find bras that fit (75% of women wear the wrong size bra).
Also, pantyhose are making it back into wardrobes, so stock up on brands that make your legs feel great.

Dress for comfort and ease.

Look Good, Feel Better. 

But before you rush off to purchase a chic new outfit, remember this:
Feeling good about your body begins by working on the inside, then focusing on what's outside.

"Don't get hung up on pounds and what size dresses you is wearing," says Magee. "Instead, focus on being healthy from the inside out, eat well, and exercise regularly.
And remember that you can be sexy and look fabulous and feel fabulous and not be thin."

Always remember this, "Really great people make you feel that you, too, can become great."- Mark Twain

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Fashion Know-Hows

Mistake 1- Hiding the body- Extra weight makes many women feels self-conscious. Full-figured women often try to de-emphasize their curves.
They wear clothes that are boring or ill-fitting, so as to not stand out.
Solution: Make your curves an asset rather than a liability. Avoid pieces that are too big or too tight. Wear clothes that skim the body and emphasize shape.
Focus on silhouette instead of size.

Mistake 2- Ignoring or being unaware of body shape- All plus-size bodies are not the same. What works for one curvy gal won't necessarily work for the next.
Solution: Learn what works for your body type, know your proportions, and dress accordingly.

Mistake 3- Clinging to a certain size- Many plus-size women will only buy clothes in the size they think they wear. Unfortunately, that size doesn't always fit.
So, they give up on an item that could be perfect for them.
Solution: Be flexible. Sizing in plus-size fashion varies from manufacturer to manufacturer. Think of your size as a range rather than a specific number. Go up or down as needed.

Mistake 4- Focusing on trends- Trendiness has its place, but it should not dictate everything you wear.
Buying every "it" item on the market doesn't contribute to building a great wardrobe. These pieces have short shelf lives and are often unflattering.
Solution: Develop your personal style. Invest your time and money in quality clothes that showcase your figure and your personality.

Mistake 5- Shying away from color- It's a well-known fact that the black has a slimming effect. So, many plus-size women become overly dependent on the color.
Their wardrobes quickly become drab and boring as a result.
Solution: Use color to your advantage. Choose hues that match your skin tone. Wear them in a way that balances your proportions. Try the monochromatic look.

Mistake 6- Shopping offline only- There is an abundance of specialty shops that carry plus-size women's clothing. Department stores also have sections for plus-size women.
However, the variety and caliber of clothes available in these stores isn't always great.
Solution: Shop online too! The internet has revolutionized the plus size fashion industry. Many of the best plus size fashion lines are only available online.
You have to become a little net savvy to find the best of the best.

Mistake 7- Shopping too infrequently- Wardrobe building requires adding new pieces regularly and getting rid of old ones.
If you only shop every few years, then chances are that you haven't accumulated what you need and that what you do own is likely outdated.
Solution: Advances in plus size fashions are constant. Add pieces one or two at a time. Shop at least every other month to keep your wardrobe functional and current.

CURVES ARE BEAUTIFUL
Miss Chloe Marshall (FIRST Plus Size crowned), was crowned Miss England 2008 and she wears size UK16.
Isn't she gorgeous?